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Wednesday, December 31, 2008

I dont know what to Do with MYSELF..

Hi all. I know I am quite scarce lately..I miss you all terribly. I miss being able to type what I have to say and not worry about someone elses feelings or reading over my shoulder as I type. I am trying to do this when everyone else is asleep. I miss having my home to ourselves. I miss alot of things that for some reason we cant have while having our visitor. Alone time is scarce right now.. I am back on a full schedule and Jeff is going to be as of next week. With the Holidays these last past few weeks we have had troubles getting everyone on a schedule.

The girls have been really cranky and I am about ready to shoot them. Its not even extra energy they have built up for being outside. Its more of them just not having there own space. They are sharing a room and a bed. Life is tough right now.

And on the flip side of things we are having a hell of a time finding places to let us do fund raising with a nonprofit organization like Another Hope for Childrens Ministries. I had to take her to the bank today to see about getting her an account where we can get the pay pal on her Website set up where they can transfer funds.

I am beginning to think this is too big for me and my family. I have no idea how to get this rolling. I have taken a few steps by contacting Oprah Winfrey.. Yes I know it sounds stupid but my MILS told me I should today when I talked to them. I also contacted Dr. Phil.. I e-mailed them both and maybe if we are lucky they can help her more than I can. You just never know.

I am rambling because I dont know what else to do about this. I have to go see about the checking account tomorrow and then go to K-mart and see about using there store as a fund raising facility. I dont know. What I had in mind for this is if we can find some place to do it, I was going to contact a local TV station and see if they want to cover the story and maybe that would generate business to us and the store itself..

I have sold 6 scrunchies to Zombie Slayer and wife. I will post them when I get them finished here in the next couple of days. They are rather pretty neat..I dont have photo's of the girls and all there toys this year. When I went to take photo's they couldnt find all there toys for some reason. So maybe tomorrow night when I come home I will post what I have of them.

Well I am tired and need to get up at about 11:30 to get dressed and eat and then off to the bank for Ruth tomorrow. Talk to you all soon I hope. Miss you all. Hugs.. N...


Jeannie said...

It sounds like you have been given quite a chunk of work to do. How daring to ask Oprah and Dr. Phil- you never know - the worst is they ignore you or say no. And if it works? wooo hooo!
Radio stations might do public service announcements for free too.

Any idea how long she'll be staying? It's hard to have extra people underfoot when you aren't used to them. It throws everything off.

Vancouver Voyeur said...

I don't know. I'm thinking Ruth or her organization should have set all this up before she came to the U.S. This doesn't sit right with me.

CA said...

Sometimes we make mistakes. That's part of life. And sometimes it is hard to admit that we made a mistake. Maybe you, even with the best of intentions, bit off more than you can chew. It might be time to admit it and tell your guest you made a mistake, that you are not able to handle this situation and she needs to make other arrangements. By now she should be able to understand that. Your first obligation is to your family and you need to act on that. It's not as if she has nowhere to go. It's tough, I know but sometimes we do things with the best of intentions that just don't work out to everyones benefit.
Good luck on whatever you decide and Happy New Year to you and your family from your friends, Jim and Donna Lee!

Squirl said...

Is there a church or churches who could help with this? It shouldn't all be on you. You have a job and family to take care of. Just sharing your home sounds like a big enough investment.

Like Vancouver Voyeur, I hope this is all on the up-and-up. Good luck.

And Happy New Year to you and your family!

Wandering Coyote said...

Just wanted to wish you and your family a happy new year, Tweets! All my best for 2009 and thanks for your support and kind words!

tshsmom said...

I'm with VV! I said from the start that her organization should've had a plan in place before sending her here.
Do NOT put your name on any accounts with her!

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Gardenia said...

This is difficult - I worked for a missions agency for 10 years and took care of over 100 missionaries and liasoned with hundreds of churches. The thing is, most of these ministries are connected with a church or missionary agency, and few churches will take on someone new unless there are strong recomendations from their own church or missions agency with financial credibility.

If you can pull this together, my dear, you will have just created a much needed position for yourself as a fundraiser - which is a wonderful occupation to be in!

It is hard having someone who is not part of family in home for more than a few days - family likes it's niches and routines - and us too! How about your church - is there anyone who can share the housing burden? Some churches too, keep a mobile home, or unit to house itinerate ministers.....check around for that possibility!

That's all the suggestions I can think of - hang in there!

Gayle said...

It seems that you invited what you thought was an adult into your home, Tweety. I don't think when you did that, that you knew she was going to be such a huge responsibility. This sounds unreasonable to me. Vancouver Voyer is right. Her finances should have been taken care of before she even came here! You have a husband, two small children and a job. You truly don't have the time for this and I'm afraid all this stress may make you ill.

You had the best of intentions in inviting her, and it shows what a compassionate person you are, but sometimes even the best of intentions go astray, and it seems that yours have. Like CA said, your first obligation is to your family and yourself. The fact that her financial arrangements weren't made in advance of her trip sounds strange to me too.

Anyway, I wish you the best and I hope it will work out for you. I want to wish you a HAPPY NEW YEAR, but I'm afraid that's not how it is for you right now, so I'll just say I hope that you will have a HAPPY NEW YEAR after you get your household back to normal.

Blessings and prayers that it all works out!

The Zombieslayer said...

I hope you get a response from either Oprah or Dr. Phil. I used to make fun of Oprah until I started reading Oprah magazine. Then I realized she's genuinely a really good person.

Where I get my coffee, they have Oprah magazine there and I now read it practically cover to cover. She really is a genuinely good person and I'm sure if you can get a hold of her, she'll help. But keep in mind, she probably gets literally over a thousand emails a day.

Looking forward to getting the scrunchies. I'll photograph them too and put them on my blog. As you know, love your blankets.

The Zombieslayer said...

Oh, I agree with Tshsmom. Be careful. You don't want to kill your finances.

Mike S said...

We're involved with several organizations that help support projects here & overseas that Churches etc prefer not to add for various reasons. Having founded a few of the groups & chaired a few I can only agree with the others. Much planning needs to be done & groundwork laid prior to any actual serious discussions can occur. All the groups, both foreign & domestic, get a multitude of requests each week. We check them all out thoroughly and about 3 in 10 pass the original screening, and of all that pass that stage, only about 1 in 200 or so get approved for the minimum amount given out.

Those that are successful get no increased funding before 3-5 years of satisfactory use of the help. Those that fail to meet expectations for 'preventable' reasons are dropped. The aid can be increased in a well documented urgent need case, and urgent generally means 'dire' need of immediate assistance.

All groups are very cautious about dispensing aid and most send folks to do on scene reviews at least yearly. There are so many needs and so many scams that those making aid offering decisions as a 'review board' have been doing this work for quite awhile. ALL the groups have at least one paid staff position at a modest salary. So modest that positions, which require full time plus, are usually filled by those of independent means and/or retired folks like myself & the Missus.

yadayadayada, just saying, it's VERY easy to waste efforts and/or get involved beyond your means or comfort level.